Choose Courage Over Comfort

The last several months have been the most transformative time of my life. It has uncovered every wound, every pattern, every limiting belief I’ve ever had and presented itself as an opportunity to truly evolve. I’ll be sharing some of these nuggets of wisdom over time on my Substack in hopes that this reaches the person who needs to see and read this; to know they’re not alone in their experiences.

When you do the inner work, it creates a ripple effect across your life

Throughout 2024 (and even long before then) I have been healing wounds from childhood and beyond - uncovering the shadows of my soul essentially - and shedding light on every belief that has held me back. And when you do the inner work, it creates a ripple effect across your life. I came to realize all the ways in which I held myself back from living the life I desired; all the ways in which my old belief systems have created the reality I was currently living. My intuition was telling me, in the way that it does so gently yet so firm in its knowing, that I wasn’t living in my highest potential. I was looking for external change when really what I needed most was internal change.

I’m not good enough
I don’t deserve x,y,z
I need to earn x,y,z
Put others’ needs before my own
People please to avoid conflict

These belief systems were not at the forefront of my mind. What I realized was, these beliefs were entirely subconscious. Quiet in its existence yet loud in the ways it would reflect itself back to me through my reality.

For the last several months I have been going through a separation and decided to begin co-parenting earlier this year. It broke me open in every way. I felt the full spectrum of emotions. I allowed myself to feel whatever came up without judgment. And then, I let go. Let go of the need to know how this would unravel. Let go of everything that did not serve me.

In a short amount of time, all that needed to be said and felt had its moment. Through this process, we cultivated a better relationship than we had previously. Was it a glimmer of hope? Or simply a silver lining? Separation doesn’t have to be this bitter end where two people hold on to anger and resentment. By the end of it, we came to respect and appreciate each other more than before. Even though our dynamic improved, it was time for us to grow separately. No false hope. Just pure honesty with myself and with him. Sometimes two great people need to go separate ways in order to take the next step in their individual evolution.

I have come to realize that we attract certain souls into our life because they mirror to us what we need to heal. That’s one of the reasons why societal expectations and the stigma around divorce doesn’t phase me. The purpose of relationship goes beyond any labels or any preconceived notions of how things should be. There is nothing linear about life and growth. My evolution is not meant to look the same as someone else’s.

Honor your truth. Let go of the rest.

The Silver Lining

Nobody goes into marriage anticipating this outcome. As sad as it is, I believe there is always something significant and important we can take from any experience. For me personally, I learned and integrated what it means to:

Be my most authentic self
Speak from the heart without fear
Live in my truth
Love myself unconditionally
Be anchored in love and rooted in my personal power

Through the chaos and through uncertainty, I discovered my true essence.

Your internal world dictates your external world

If there’s something in your life that just doesn’t feel right, or it doesn’t feel fully aligned, ask yourself…

What is happening internally that I can shed light on in order to understand how I manifested this into my life?

What could it be reflecting within me that I am rejecting or suppressing?

There is always an opportunity to take full accountability for our life.

Choose courage over comfort

Just like we can manifest great things in life, our subconscious also manifests experiences and people that challenge us, that show us where we are hiding from ourselves. Your life is a mirror to what is happening internally. And until you truly understand that and integrate the lessons you are here to learn, you are going find yourself repeating the same patterns or hitting the same wall.

You can either choose comfort or you can choose courage.

Courage to rise up and take on the challenge of being fully accountable for your life. Courage to become truly honest with yourself and honest with others about what you envision for your life. Courage to rise up to the frequency that is required of you in order to live in your highest timeline.

Once you commit to honoring your voice and your vision for your life, once you cultivate real trust with your intuition, life blossoms and unfolds in the most beautiful and miraculous of ways. You are no longer resisting, you are allowing, you are flowing, you are trusting.

With so much love,
Linh